I have been thinking the last few days about some things. I have a hard time being confident with any of my abilities. As I was cleaning my house today, I came to the realization that I have been blessed with different talents and I should be more confident with them. I have lived most of my life with the little voice in my head telling me why my abilities are insignificant, and why someone else has better talents. I'm so sick of putting myself down! And really, what good does it do? With Cletus (the fetus) coming along, I have decided that I no longer want to live like this. I don't want Cletus to know its mother second guessing herself. And I really don't want to pass this mentality to Cletus.
Have you ever noticed that the people who are confident (not cocky) always seem to draw people to them? They are so comfortable with themselves, that it makes others feel comfortable. And after being around these people, you somehow feel better about yourself too. Since these people are confident in themselves, they point out the positive about others. They lift you up, rather than put you down.
My question is how do you become confident and sure about yourself, without being cocky?
P.S. An update with Cletus, I'm 16 weeks along. My energy is back, and I'm feeling great! We went to the doctor yesterday and everything is good. It took a little while to find the heart beat, which was the longest minute of my life!!! We just feel so blessed with this opportunity to be pregnant!! We find out what we're having on January 15th....and I can't wait!!
Saturday, December 19, 2009
What I've realized.
Posted by Bryce and Jamie at 5:12 PM
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I so know how you feel Jamie! I kind of had a bit of the same realization when I was pregnant with Tyler. Because our kids WILL see the things we do and hear the things we say... even about ourselves. Isn't it great (and kind of scary!) that we get to be examples for our kids- they'll want to do the things they see us do (until they hit those darn teenage years). You are going to be a great mom and little Cletus is so lucky! I'm so glad you're feeling better- what a relief huh! Can't wait to find out if Cletus is blue or pink!
HUrray! Again, I am just so excited for you! What a darling mom you will be and already are!
PS Jamie! You are so right! Don't listen to that stupid voice in your head, that voice is not of God. Satan knows he can not get you to fail by being disobedient and denying God, but he can make you fail by being afraid and doubting yourself! I know we are not very close, but I adore you! You have the greatest personality and are so fun and funny. Have faith that you are important and have much to offer those around you.
Have a great week!
Yay for the update... i think to find the difference between being confident vs. cocky is when you talk up your many qualities to the point that it annoys others..then I would think that's being more on the cocky side. But to go about thinking positive of yourself and your gifts is great!!
I think that you already defined the difference between being confident and cocky: you said that confident people draw others close and help to build them up...
I think that one way to build confidence is to learn to take a compliment and take it to heart. I find myself discounting many of the compliments I get. It IS okay to say, 'thank you' and try to remember it when doubt sets in from time to time.
Jamie, I think you already to a wonderful job at building up others around you. I think that you have a lot more confidence than you believe sometimes because we tend to be the biggest critics of ourselves.
Anyway... I liked this post and I think it is something we could all take to heart = humility + confidence.
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